OK, then YOU must chose self-esteem, not self pity. Chose to listen to your inner voice, not the random opinions of others. Chose to be grateful for life, not resentment for what happened to you.
Make 2017 the year that you really come into your own...understanding that everything that happens in life, happens because God allows it. If He allowed it in your life, it serves a purpose.
Care to find out what that purpose is? You have 363 more days to do so...